Compatibility between Couples.

Compatibility between souls is one of the strongest causes of love.If the love relationship is based on similarity and harmony, then it will be reinforced and become stronger, and nothing could remove it except something stronger than the cause of it, and if it is not based on similarity and harmony, then it is no more than love for a reason, which will disappear when the reason disappears. 

If you look at creation, you will hardly find any two people who love one another except that there is some similarity between them or they have something in common with regard to deeds, characteristics or goals. If the goals, characteristics, deeds or ways differ, there can only be aversion and distance between their hearts.

If a muslim man truly believes in the Sunnah, then he wont criticize his wife, be it in cooking, cleaning, or anything she does. He appreciate the food she cooks, even if it isn't exactly to his liking. Aisha (r), and other companions and wives, mentioned that the Prophet (pbuh) never criticized anyone’s cooking, especially his wives. If he didnt like the food he would still say ‘What good food this is!” or if he did not want to eat it he would say “I do not wish to eat now”, so for those husbands who complain to their wives, you go against the sunnah of the messenger when you do so. 

So, love and cherish your wife as a companionable and gracious gift of divine mercy. But do not fasten your love to her physical beauty, which swiftly fades. Rather, woman's most attractive and agreeable beauty is the fineness of character that accompanies the delicacy and refinement peculiar to her. As for her most precious and sweet beauty, it is her earnest, sincere, sublime and luminous compassion. This beautiful tenderness and fineness of character continues and increases until the end of her days. Moreover, that weak and delicate creature's rights of respect will be protected by that love. Otherwise, when her superficial beauty fades the poor woman will lose her rights, even when she most needs them.

The Prophet(PBUH) also used to show a great deal of affection towards his wives. Aisha (r) reported that the Prophet (PBUH) would only enjoy his meals when she would sit next to him. They would drink from one cup and he would watch where Aisha would place her lips on the cup so that he could place his lips on the exact position. He would eat from a bone after she would eat from it, placing his mouth where she had eaten. 


A hadeeth was also narrated by Muslim in his Saheeh, 4773. Al-Nawawi said: “With regard to the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), ‘Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.