All divine decrees will come to pass, both upon the one who accepts them and upon the one who rejects them.The difference is that the former will find a huge reward and happiness while the latter will find sins, sorrow and misery.A person who goes through trials should take steps to remedy his situations or else hopelessness takes control of him.Contemplating the patience of those who were tested in the past is a means of strengthening one's determination.
Some things are beyond planning.And life doesn't always turn out as planned.You don't plan for a broken heart.You don't plan for an autistic child.You don't plan for spinsterhood.You don't plan to be sad.You don't plan to be hurt.You don't plan to be broke.You don't plan to be betrayed. You don't plan to be shattered.
Sometimes if you work hard enough, you can get what you want. But most times, what you want and what you get are two different things.We, mortals, plan. But so does Allah in the heavens.Sometimes, it is difficult to understand Allah's plans especially when His plans are not in consonance with ours.Often, when He sends us crisis, we turn to Him in anger. True, we cannot choose what Allah wishes us to carry, but we can carry it with courage, knowing that He will never abandon us nor send something we cannot cope with.
When the result doesn't match our expectation, we call it a failure.A child starting his baby steps to walk ,falls after every other step.The child is not able to walk even two steps.would you call the child a failure? It's nature's way of preparing the child to walk.One day the child is thus prevented from all future falls.
Dr Samuel Johnson said:The habit of looking on the right side in every circumstances is more valuable than having a large income.
Stop to reflect:Do not get sad, for Allah(swt) defends his true believes and the angels in heaven ask for forgiveness for you, the believers share with you their supplications in every prayer.The prophet (saw) will intercede for the believers, the Qur'an is replete with true promises and above all is the mercy of he who is the Most Merciful.
A strong believer has a firm belief that nothing can happen to him except that Allah (swt) has decreed for him.You should beat the hardships of life with a powerful punch of patience and balm the pains of life with a pinch of Positive attitude.You need to squeeze your skills to get some fresh and juicy ideas/ words/ thoughts to remedy the pain of rejection, the pain of losing someone, the pain of illness and so on and so forth.
A Divine Dose: But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (2:216)
When the People of Ta'if (a city of Arabia) rejected the message and pelted at him stones,the Prophet (pbuh) made, what is considered, as his most beautiful dua’a to Allah, a dua’a of complete sincerity, grace abounding, noble eloquence and utter humility before his Lord. Here are his words, read them slowly, for in them you will find the complete truth and beauty of Islam, in them you will find the true state of man to his Lord, in them you will find your Lord, and in them you will find the best of all people, the Messenger of Allah (saw).
“O Allah! Unto You do I complain of my weakness, of my helplessness and of my lowliness before men. O most Merciful of the merciful. O Lord of the weak and my Lord too. Into whose hands have you entrusted me? Unto some far off stranger who receives me with hostility? Or unto a foe whom you have empowered against me? I care not, so long as You are not angry with me. But Your favouring help, that were for me the broader way and the wider scope. I take refuge in the light of Your countenance whereby all darknesses are illuminated and all things of this world and the next are rightly ordered, lest You make descend Your anger upon me or lest Your wrath beset me. Yet it is Yours to reproach until You are well pleased. There is no power and no might except through Thee.”
To Sum Up: When someone rejects you in any aspect of life, do not get disheartened, rather rejoice within yourself saying to yourself Allahukaber! Worst could have happened, Alhumdulillah! It didn't happened. My Creator plan's are, indeed better than those of his best of creations (human beings).Its better to get rejected at first place than to get divorced later (in every aspect of life).What have I lost? Nothing! What belongs to me after all that i may loose.
A Note : Let the people see your heart (through your actions and reactions) and say to themselves within themselves Oh! The peace and ease I'm searching for is in the life of this man/woman.Wonder! where he/she got it from?